Master Your Presence: The Simple Communication Audit

Simple steps to speak with more confidence and clarity

Whether you're a business owner, homeschooling parent, or simply someone who wants to connect better with others, communication is one of the most powerful tools you can develop. I’ve been following Vinh Giang, an incredible speaker and teacher on communication, and one of the first exercises he recommends is The Communication Audit.

It’s a simple yet transformational process that allows you to see and hear yourself objectively — and make meaningful improvements in how you show up for others.

Here’s a complete step-by-step guide so you can try it for yourself:

Step 1: Record Yourself (Unscripted)

Choose a topic that you feel comfortable talking about — it could be your business, homeschooling journey, your favorite hobby, or even something random like "why I love morning coffee."

Set a timer for 5 minutes, hit record (video), and talk. No notes, no script — just you, as naturally as possible.

Why this works: You capture your natural speaking habits and mannerisms, which is exactly what you need to observe and improve.

Step 2: Set It Aside

Once you’ve recorded, do not watch or critique it right away. Leave it for at least 24 hours.

Why this works: We’re our own worst critics. Giving yourself space reduces self-judgment and helps you come back with fresh eyes and ears.

Step 3: The Audio Audit

The next day, turn up the volume and hide the video. Just listen.

Pay attention to:

• Tone

• Pacing

• Pitch

• Energy

• Confidence

• Clarity

• Filler words (um, like, you know)

Take notes: How does your voice make you feel as a listener? Does it sound warm? Engaging? Hesitant?

Pro tip: The way you sound carries more impact than the words you say. People feel your intention in your tone.

Step 4: The Visual Audit

Now, turn the sound off and watch yourself on mute.

• Notice:

• Body language

• Eye contact

• Facial expressions

• Gestures

• Posture

• Nervous movements

Ask yourself: Would I trust and want to listen to this person? Do I look relaxed and confident or tense and unsure?

Why this works: Body language is a key part of communication that often undermines or enhances what we say.

Step 5: The Transcript Audit

Transcribe your audio or use a tool to do it for you (many platforms like Otter.ai or even Google Docs voice typing can help).

Read through your words and look for:

• Filler words

• Incomplete thoughts

• Overcomplicated sentences

• Rambling

• Clarity and structure

Ask yourself: Would I follow this conversation easily if I read it as an article?

Why this works: Seeing your words on paper helps you recognize habits you don’t notice when speaking.

Step 6: Review and Improve

Once you've completed all three audits — audio, visual, and transcript — write down:

• What do you like about your communication (celebrate these!)

• What small tweaks you can make (such as reducing filler words, pausing more often, making stronger eye contact, or using more open body language)

Start with one focus area at a time.

Why This Exercise Matters

Communication isn’t just about words — it’s your presence, energy, and ability to connect. Whether you're talking to a client, teaching your child, or sharing on social media, how you show up matters.

The beauty of this exercise is that it helps you become more intentional and confident — and small changes compound into powerful results.

P.S. I’d love to know if you try this and what you learn!